After Baby: Siblings
Wednesday, August 26, 2009 Posted by Kristin
Kaila’s been such a sweet big sister. I think she genuinely loves her little sister. It’s rough, four year she had with us. Alone, our sole attention. She’ll always be my teeny tiny baby, I can still remember her very first laughs. It seems like it wasn’t long ago and she was in my arms.
Kaila has been hot and cold with the whole baby thing. I’ve really made an effort recently to spend time with her. Today just the two of us, got our nails done. I tried making her feel special, like the big girl she now is. I wish baby talk, and cuddles still soothed her. But she’s older now. 
Recently at school she’s had a few blow ups. They think it’s because of the baby. But honestly I know there some jealousy issues there but I think she’s testing her limits. Yesterday I dragged her into her school. Literally. Last week she refused to go completely. Maybe it was us making her stay for naptime. I looked at it like three extra hours I have to get things done. She looked at it as a total violation of her trust. Even said “Teacher Letti I’m not napping” throwing herself on the floor. Now is acting out because of the baby? Or is she seeing how far Teacher Letti will let her go?
Today I dragged her into school. She was crying, I was at my end. I promised I’d come to pick her up. She wouldn’t nap at school. When I picked her up I figured someone would have a story to tell, nothing. As I left that morning Teacher Letti was holding her back as she was throwing a fit. It seems like as soon as I walked out the door she was fine. She patiently waited for me to pick her up and I took her out. Just her and mommy.
Now I think she’s just testing her limits at school. Although I know for sure Kaila hates baby talk. In fact, no matter where she is in the house. If I start to talk to Brooklin with baby talk, she comes running. Now I know she loves Brooklin, but she breaks my heart when she says “No mommy look at me” .
Now I need some tips how did you juggle two kids? Did your oldest have problems?
p.s. Read Del’s post. He also posted a mans view of breastfeeding.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Hi Kristin,
We have 3 girls, it was definitely an adjustment when #2 came along.
If it were me, I'd let her stay home from school for a day or two then make it as boring as possible. Tell her that she can stay home from school but that she needs to stay in her room/whatever works for you. Don't talk to her much, don't make a lot of eye contact. I bet she'll be ready to go back.
Or, bribery always works. Make her a chart to put "school stickers" on it. Every day she has a good day at school, put a sticker on the chart. Plan a fun activity for just the two of you (something as simple as making cupcakes together or going tothe park) when her chart is full. Just my 2 cents.
I am excited to be at Table Talk, too and can't wait to meet you! It looks like a great group of ladies. See you this weekend!:)
-Mandy
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Roo's been acting up like that since Jasper was born. I wish it wasn't like that, all we can do is try to let her know how much we love her, etc. The baby talk is THE WORST!!!
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Totally normal, it has been really hard since Judah was born 2 years ago, mostly for Mika. My older kids were okay, as it wasn't a huge adjustment for them, since they had already been through that situation before. It will get better, I promise, but it takes time! :-)
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Connor is the same way, he absolutely loves his baby sister and always wants to hold her and help out with her, he is so sweet - at home. at school he is a completely different little boy, he is mean to the little kids, he's rude to the teacher and staff and does not listen or do his school work. he tells me he loves school but the other day he got into trouble and when the teacher got after him he said to her; do I get to go home now!! So he is having a problem with the baby being home with us while he's not. I don't know what to do, we've tried everything and nothing is working.. Let me know if anything works for you!